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Abstract This paper examines the emergent phenomenon of virtual sex offending and based upon a study of 22 forensic interviews, outlines a framework for understanding this type of sex offender from a clinical perspective. Specifically, this paper examines the role of online sex addiction in the development of virtual sex offending and outlines five stages from inception to incarceration that the virtual sex offender follows. More importantly, this paper differentiates patterns of online behavior of virtual sex offenders that suggest they are fantasy users who dabble in pedophilic themes compared to classic sex offenders who seek out children for sexual gratification.
In two cases, the client never showed up at the arranged meeting time and was arrested at home for attempting to engage in sexual misconduct with a minor over the Internet. In one case, the client sat down with the police decoy and was then arrested. Online behavior patterns were analyzed in each case using clinical interview and available discovery materials such as psychological reports, progress notes from therapists currently treating the individual, pre-sentencing reports, warrants or affidavits by investigators, and transcripts of chat room dialogues.
In all 22 cases, clients met the basic criteria of Internet addiction.
Similar to an alcoholic who consumes greater levels of alcohol in order to achieve satisfaction, clients routinely spent ificant amounts of time online. Clients went to great lengths to mask the nature of their online activities, primarily to conceal the extent and nature of the behavior. For example, an alcoholic is often driven to drink at moments of excessive stress or an overeater is often driven to binge on food during moments of tension.
The compulsive behavior serves to reduce underlying emotional tension and serves as a reward for future behavior. Similarly, clients reported finding that they turned to the computer to find relief from moments of mental tension and agitation present in their lives. The Addiction Perspective Unlike classic child sex offenders who exhibit chronic and persistent patterns of sexualized behavior toward children that typically begins in early adolescence Salter,each of the 22 cases were first time offenders with no history of sexual activity towards children.
Their offenses seemed entirely related to online sexual fantasy role-play rooms. The stages are interdependent and highlight how users utilize the Internet as a progressive means of escape as part of an addiction cycle. Discovery In the discovery stage, users make the initial discovery that adult web sites and sexually-explicit chat rooms exist and are available on the Internet. In either case, the person discovers the sexual thrill of the act, which opens the door for further exploration.
Many Internet Service Providers ISPs permit sexually oriented chat rooms to exist with names that clearly indicate the types of sexual practices which will be discussed by the participants. Those practices range from the most ordinary to the most deviant.
A History of Cybersex: Dirty Talk, Chat Rooms, and Addictions
For clients, the fantasy theme began and progressed as a novelty created through cyberspace chat rooms and their anonymous availability. Jack was a year-old senior executive at an engineering firm near Palo Alto, California. He was highly educated and spent long hours with his team researching new product des.
Late at night, in his office alone while doing research on the web for work he discovered, Naughty Chat, an adult site. Exploration In the exploration stage, they may begin to experiment, exploring new web sites such as pornography or gambling sites, or they may enter a chat room for the very first time. I started to stay late at work and coming in on the weekends just to look at porn.
I hated myself. I became bored pornography and started chatting with other women. We had phone sex, some showed me their web cams and they would be naked and some even masturbated for me. They feel encouraged by the acceptance of the cyberspace culture, especially when cloaked behind the anonymity of the computer screen, and many feel less able for their actions over the Internet. Within the anonymous context of cyberspace, conventional messages about sex are eliminated allowing users to play out hidden or repressed sexual fantasies in a private lab.
For anyone who has ever been curious about a particular hidden or deviant fantasy, cyberspace offers an anonymous way to explore and indulge in those fantasies. Escalation In the escalation stage, the behavior escalates as users feel that they have to look for new pornography every time they are online, they have to make another bet at a virtual casino, or they have to enter the chat room and see who else is online. They cross a line from using the Internet as a productive tool to developing a recurrent habit.
The user feels compelled to go online, feeling more obsessed with being online and the behavior becomes more ingrained and ritualistic. They enjoy particular sites, they establish online relationships with a regular set of fellow users that they have cybersex with, have phone sex, or meet for real life sex. Jack started surfing chat sites looking for women.
Cybersex in Portuguese chatrooms: a study of sexual behaviors related to online sex
I cyersex lying to my wife about needing to work late and I started missing deadlines at work, but after 20 years of marriage it exciting to rekindle something about my own sexuality. I played off what these women said. It was all just a fantasy. Now, sex with my wife seems so dull in comparison. When I do have sex with my wife, I am always fantasizing about the pictures I recently saw from the Web. This is destroying my marriage. We are now sleeping in separate beds and I am alone all night with my computer instead of her.
I know this is sick.
I want to quit doing this but I just feel too weak to stop. In the escalation stage, the behavior becomes more chronic and pronounced such that fantasy users become saturated with a continuous stream of sexual content that can take on riskier and riskier forms. However, these rationalizations are temporary and eventually break down as the he becomes more and more disgusted by his online actions and experience episodes of despair, as promises to stop are broken and attempts to quit fail.
Compulsivity The habitual behavior becomes more ingrained and develops into a compulsive obsession.
In this stage, life becomes unmanageable, as relationships or careers are jeopardized because of the compulsive behavior. It is a common theme among all 22 subjects. They each described their Internet use, whether sex chat rooms or Internet pornography, as a rush or high that they experienced while online. They felt as if their Internet was less about using as information tool but as form of psychological escape.
In this stage, the fantasy user is largely driven by increasingly painful states of tension and agitation, as an alcoholic is driven to drink at moments of excessive stress or an overeater is driven to binge on food during moments of tension. He exhibits addictive patterns as he onlinw preoccupied with the computer, attempts to conceal the nature of his online activities, and continues to engage in the activity despite its known potential risks, including arrest and incarceration.
My life became a lonely isolated mess. I realized that I could loose my job, my marriage, and the respect of everyone I love if I was caught. I have two daughters and would never think about doing anything inappropriate with them, but I could not bring myself to stop despite knowing all the consequences for my actions. Feelings of helplessness develop, especially as the he becomes fully aware how out of control life has become. In this stage, the addict realizes the unhealthy excess of the behavior only to attempt total abstinence.
They will often cancel their Internet service, disconnect the modems, or install filtering software in the attempt to stop the compulsive behavior. The addict struggles with staying clean and sober and feels desperate to put his life back on track. Since relapse is only a mouse-click away, the addict slips back into old patterns beginning the cycle once again. Given that the addict lacks proper impulse control, he may be more likely to dabble in sexually inappropriate or deviant material, which is easily accessible through the Internet.
Do you want me to be your mom, sister, daughter, or aunt? They made repeated attempts at abstinence and had repeated incidences of relapse.
CYBERSEX CONVERSATIONS NOT A CRIME?
They cycled in cybersx way for months or years prior to their arrests and often are hoping to get caught. They see it as a way of relieving themselves from their secret online lives and as way to ultimately stop. Most people do not yet realize that there is any risk involved in engaging in online sexual pursuits.
The variety and scope of these computer-enabled fantasies are limitless and still evolving. In the post-Internet era, new chat rooms, new technology, and new onlihe users all help to build new sexual fantasy experiences. From the legal perspective, given the proliferation of sexually explicit content on the Internet, forensic psychologists, law enforcement, and the court system in general should consider the role of the Internet and its potential for addiction in the development of inappropriate or deviant online sexual behavior, especially as it relates to pedophilic interests.
Clinical research suggests that deviant sexual fantasies carried out online do not always originate from individuals with a pre-existing disposition for deviancy, but cases document how once pro-social citizens will engage in this same behavior Young et al. In several legal dhat against certain ISPs e. In cases of child pornography, ISPs often neglect to provide warnings informing subscribers that looking at or downloading these images is a crime in the prevention of these events.
Cjbersex the sexual permissiveness of the cyberspace subculture, forensic evaluations should examine conduct that differentiates classic cybersec offenders from virtual sex offenders, or addicted fantasy users who engage in pedophilic themes, in the context of how they onlie the Internet. Specifically, three key variables should be assessed: 1 the chat room theme, 2 handles utilized, and 3 the level of intimacy and engagement between the alleged predator and.
From a clinical perspective, forensic evaluations of virtual sex offenders should also evaluate if the user exhibits symptoms of compulsive Internet use. Does the client demonstrate a ificant and regular loss of impulse-control? Does the client exhibit a preoccupation with the Internet? Does the client continue to engage in the activity knowing its potential consequences? If compulsivity is present, the exam should further evaluate the presence of psychological stress such as marital discord, job dissatisfaction, or health concerns.
It is also important to assess if onnline client reports failed attempts at self-regulation and an inability to control online behavior. People, who have Cybersexual Addiction, are most likely addicted for because of the anonymity the Internet offers, the convenience, and also the escape. Gender also plays a role in Cybersexual Addiction. It is impossible to tell whether males or females are more commonly addicted to cybersex, but the Center for Online Addiction states the following: "Gender ificantly influences the way men and women view cybersex.
Women prefer cybersex because it hides their cyybersex appearance, removes the social stigma that women shouldn't enjoy sex, and allows them a safe means to concentrate on their sexuality in new, uninhibited ways. Men prefer cybersex because it removes performance anxiety that may be underlying problems with premature ejaculation or impotence and it also hide their physical appearance for men who feel insecure about hair loss, penis size, or weight gain. Recovery from this particular form of Internet addiction is very hopeful.
There are various Internet sources and online virtual clinics that help people deal with this addiction, aside from which cyberpsychologists like, Dr. Kimberly Young have written books helping those who need to conquer this addiction in order to get a hold on their lives, especially marriages.
This particular form of Internet addiction can go unnoticed, until it is too late. It brings about various controversial debates, such as "Is having cybersex while you're married or involved with someone, considered cheating on your spouse or ificant other? Yet others believe that if your spouse or partner found out about your cybersex experiences and felt betrayed, then it is indeed cheating. They argue, that cybersex is not masturbation or pornography - there is another person involved.
While others say, that only makes it a more interactive form of pornography.
No matter how long one debates this issue, the fact that someone would feel betrayed if their loved one is engaging in Cybersexual activities does not change. The emotional bond that is created even fybersex the Internet is quite real. The possibility of loving someone you write to and speak to on a daily basis is definitely there.
One cybersex addict writes, "I've never been quite sure exactly what it is you fall in love with, the other person or the very notion of being in love, but I'm not sure that it matters, either". When cybersex le to the formation of a relationship involving love, then the issue of cheating cannot be debated any longer. Wanting to spend more time online with someone, rather than with a person who is actually physically there with you is not only addiction, but most certainly deceitful. Being addicted to the Internet cybedsex be a dangerous and life-changing state.
Addiction happens gradually, but often times people are so intrigued with the limitless possibilities available to them on the Internet, they forget about the real life implications these virtual actions can have. People would often prefer to use their imaginations, and because being on the internet is not a concrete thing, meaning the person you onlinf speaking to could be exactly the opposite of what you think cybrsex are, only because your imagination has chosen to make them that way, thus making them as perfect for you as possible.
This is extremely problematic, as married individuals who engage in online relationships find themselves more interested in their online "friends" rather than their spouses. Also, because they have created that person in their own he, not having the imperfect facts physically in front of them, it is highly possible that the imperfections of their partners will be amplified, because it is not in their imagination, altered by their minds to quite their own fantasies.
That person is really actually there. To say that anyone who meets others online will develop relationships with them, later taking it to another level and adding sexual content to their relationship, is not applicable. There may be various individuals, for whom being virtually sexual is out of the question, thus keeping all relationships or bonds made with people from the Internet at a friendly level.
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Yes, it is possible to interact with people online without having it lead to sexual experiences. Over the years I have met a lot of friends through the Internet. Some of these friends, I knew from before and am able to keep in contact with making our friendship stronger on a regular basis because of the Internet. Others, I met online in chat rooms and such. Regardless of where I've met them, they have become part of my life. Yes, it is true that they are not real individuals in my every day physical life, but as an Internet Addict myself, if I were to not speak to them, I'd feel as though I was missing something.
I don't really see that as a compulsive addiction, but rather the need to be in contact with friends.
I believe that people perceive particular things about you, but only because you are providing them with reasons to think of you in that particular way. Cjbersex times I've been approached online by random people, asking if I was interested in cybersex, and it is quite easy for me to say, "get lost! The issue at hand is, is cybersex or the formation of Internet relationships an addicting "substance" much like cigarettes, alcohol and gambling?
Help for Cybersex Addicts and Their Loved Ones - IEEE Technology and Society
As the years progress, more and more cyberpsychologists such as Dr. John Suler of Rider University will come up with conclusions which will help us understand the dynamics of this new addiction and its cures and treatments. Suler has created a hypertext book about cyberpsychology. In this hypertext book, he has included his deductions about various issues Internet Addicts deal with as addicts and also the people surrounding them and how their lives are affected.
It is interesting to read Dr. Suler's ideas about identity management in cyberspace. Suler says, "The multiple aspects of one's identity may be dissociated, enhanced, or integrated online. Suler explains how easy it is for people to get addicted to creating selves within themselves on the Internet to satisfy different curiosities or fantasies. Creating someone different from yourself not only allows you to be something you are not, but also to dissociate yourself with the acts that the person you've created might perform.
This can also be problematic, because addicts can develop more than a few online personas and at what point do those personas affect their real lives? According to Dr. Suler, when people develop cyberspace romances, it may be purely for the excitement factor. Yet, some people can find genuine "true" relationships in cyberspace.
In the end, these couples that have found something genuine and real, must meet to see if the qualities they each thought the other possessed are really there. I know several people who are romantically involved through cyberspace. In fact, a month ago one of my close friends flew halfway across the world to meet someone she would marry. They met though a voice chat site, and soon exchanged ICQ s.
After months and months of speaking to one another, they had fallen in love. In March, she flew to the thousands of miles to meet this person she wanted to spend the rest of her life there. When people hear about relationships like the one I just described, their first initial reaction is usually disbelief at the fact that someone would go all that way to meet someone they met over the Internet.